What do you imagine when you listen to the word “mindfulness”? Many of my friends believe that mindfulness is sitting in mediation and doing “nothing”. I get that, when we do “nothing” we get bored! However, mindfulness is not about that.

Before I explain what mindfulness is, I’ll get you first to think why it could be interesting to learn mindfulness. Think about your studies for a moment—have there been times when you’ve felt stressed, overwhelmed or pressured? Maybe it’s the homework due tonight or the presentation you have tomorrow. And what about midterms and finals—do they make you feel extra anxious? When that happens, do you stay focused or do you usually end up procrastinating until the deadline is right on top of you? If you answered yes to at least one of these questions, then you might want to learn how mindfulness can become a handy tool to face any of these challenges. Let’s start!

What is mindfulness?

Mindful practice is bringing your full conscious attention to the present by allowing your body and mind to experience moment-to-moment with a more grounded sense of reality. When practicing mindfulness, you become the observer of your thoughts and feelings, and along this process, begin to understand yourself in a clearer way.

Feelings of stress and anxiety often come from making a thought, issue or emotion feel bigger than what it actually is, especially when we start to overthink. Though coping responses vary from person to person, many times they lead to undesired reactions or behaviors such as anger, overeating or isolating yourself from others.

Mindfulness can help you become aware about how you react to different situations, and as you understand more about yourself, you can also develop better skills and adjust your responses, this is called self-regulation (Baltzel, 2016; Palmer & Rodger, 2009). For example, when faced with the pressure, anxiety or overwhelming feelings of an upcoming exam you can pause for a second and notice what is happening within you, are you getting caught up in racing thoughts or panic? Take a few moments to focus on your breathing, and gently bring your attention to the present moment. Observe your thoughts and feelings without judging them and become aware of the space happening in between your inner experience and how you want to respond. By creating this space you can calm down and choose your next step such as, taking a short break or returning to study, feel what is best for you in that moment and whatever your choice is allow yourself to go ahead.

As you can see, mindfulness can be practiced by anyone who would like to improve the quality of their life. Also, mindfulness can be practiced in many different settings, such as sitting, laying down, walking or eating. There are four simple aspects essential to practice mindfulness:
1) a quiet environment
2) a comfortable position
3) a point of focus for the mind, and
4) being non-judgmental, keep an open mind

Let’s do a simple mindfulness exercise to reconnect with yourself. Ready? Find a chair to sit comfortably and take three deep breaths. Then, with each breath you take you’ll feel more and more relaxed. Feel the weight of your body being transferred onto the chair. Begin to notice how your feet touch the floor. Then, gently bring your attention to your legs, knees, upper thigh, and gradually move up throughout your whole body all the way to your head. If you notice any tension just let it be; do not judge it. Just let the mind become aware of it, and kindly bring its attention to the next area. Through this process, the mind and the body become one, so there is no need for struggle, allow yourself to be in the process. Focus your attention on each sensation, stay with it for a few seconds, become the observer of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Notice how they arise and just let them go.

Some people might struggle to notice their experience, so here are some questions to help you out
What do I see?
What do I hear?
What do I smell?
What sensations does my body have?
What do I taste?
How do I feel? Sad, anxious, happy

If you become distracted during this process, it’s ok, just gently bring your attention back to where you were and continue, remember not to judge, allow yourself to be open to the experience and accept all of who you are in this moment. And, whenever you are ready, slowly begin to make small movements to gradually bring your awareness back to your mind, body, and into your environment. Avoid standing up too quickly, as it may cause dizziness or light headedness.

Mindful living

Dealing with school pressure can take a toll, both on your body and mind. Practicing mindful living helps you become aware of how stress affects you by understanding where your feelings come from, and offers simple ways to stay grounded, focused and calm, even when you’re super busy. While change unfolds gradually, each small step is also a big step. Whether you’re able to spend 2 minutes or a full hour— it’s your journey, so take it at your own pace.

References
Baltzell, A. (Ed.) (2016). Mindfulness and Performance. Cambridge University Press. https://doi.org/10.1017/CBO9781139871310
Palmer, A., & Rodger, S. (2009). Mindfulness, stress, and coping among university students. Canadian Journal of Counselling,43(3), 198–212.

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Xin-Yi Peng

After shopping like crazy, is there a moment in which you feel empty? In fact, nothing is wrong with spending money; however, we should make a spending plan and consider the deeper reasons for our over-spending. Is our shopping satisfying a need, or is it merely for vanity or a temporary increase in confidence?

Dear Peng,

Lately, I have had disagreements with my family because of my bills for last month. My mom called me a shopaholic, blaming me for spending too much while earning a small amount. This really pissed me off. As the saying goes, “The tailor makes the man” I just like to dress myself up in fashionable attire. People will look at me differently when I wear brand-named clothes and accessories! Plus, most of my classmates are also brand-addicted, and I feel like an alien if I don’t do the same thing.

I don’t make a lot of money. I try to pay the bills using installment plans provided by my credit cards. I do, however, pay for my clothes with my own pocket money. I think I should be fashionable while I am still young. Every time I shop in fancy stores, I really enjoy the great customer service and the courteous reception that salespeople offer. Although the things I buy seem to be a little bit expensive, I tend to use the items for a very long time. The quality of brand-named clothing is much higher than the clothes that I buy from stands. I feel very different when I wear expensive clothes while walking among the crowds on campus.

So, am I wrong? Will I spend all my family’s money? I don’t really want to hear my family accusing me of spending money unwisely.

Confused Van

Dear Confused Van,

I would like to thank you for sharing your concern and difficulty in this matter. I believe that we are all attracted to things that are new, beautiful, and fashionable. It must be difficult for you to justify your actions to your family, especially since you love being fashionable.

Reproducing desirable consumable products is at the heart of consumerism in a capitalistic society. A variety of fashionable products catch customers’ eyes. For higher turnover, newer products must always be available for consumption. While shopping for fashionable items, we can observe our own repetitive consumption behaviors. Paying by credit card is one of the behaviors of consumers. You are still a student and dependent on your parents; one of the consequences of your consumption behaviors is that your parent(s) question your excessive spending patterns. In all honesty, your bills turn out to be their responsibility. This does not mean that they cannot understand and appreciate your experience, rather they hope that you can ease their burdens by becoming a responsible shopper.

In fact, nothing is wrong with spending money. Do not repress yourself and what you like to do because of guilt. However, I suggest that you manage your money based on a monthly budget plan. Once you have calculated your monthly income, as well as your family allowance, you can gain a better idea of your spending range. You can also ask your family or friends to remind you of your budget. In this way, you won’t spend excessive amounts of money on spur of the moment items.

Before we limit our expenditures or manage our budget, we need to consider the reasons why we like to shop. This attitude towards consumption may be related to personal values toward money, or it could be a clue about our own levels of self-confidence. Perhaps, all we want is to receive praise from others. We may try to bolster our self-confidence based on other people’s opinions. This may be caused by an underlying low sense of self. Capitalists applaud any low sense of self that might increase sales! I encourage the resolution of your issues through further self-exploration and self-reflection. If you are ready, I am surely willing to explore more about self-values with you.

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